tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post1759329998877142045..comments2023-09-11T05:27:27.319-07:00Comments on NoHo Moho: And Here's The ResponseEzrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-19013137680280663452009-01-21T11:28:00.000-08:002009-01-21T11:28:00.000-08:00Ezra-- GO YOU. I thought your letter to your mom ...Ezra-- GO YOU. I thought your letter to your mom was AMAZING and so well put together. I really love the way you express gratitude for her throughout the letter. You are an awesome young man. Her response is obviously short on purpose. I think she is just at a loss for what to say to you. Thats what it seems to me. I think a lot of us have been through this process, and I know it feels strange and anti-climactic to have such a meagre return on such a heart-opening deposit that you made by sending that honest letter. My opinion is that this is very positive. I think that she will probably go back and forth a lot on this in her own head. I almost think it is better for you if she processes her own angst about this without involving you. She is an adult and she will figure it out. In the meantime I suggest you just continue loving her and as long as she is being respectful and loving to you, you can leave it there and just wait for her to figure out how to love this "new you". Its not new to you, but it is to her. <BR/><BR/>I support you 100%. You are awesome and I am anxious to stay abreast of your story. <BR/><BR/>Hey how bout that super bowl thats coming up? (breaking stereotypes)<BR/>Football players are hot. I love locker rooms (supporting stereotypes)CLARK JOHNSENhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02893018646857280001noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-34361274690180817132009-01-19T21:20:00.000-08:002009-01-19T21:20:00.000-08:00@Ausmo, Comment #1 - (I know you were tongue in ch...@Ausmo, Comment #1 - (I know you were tongue in cheek but I had to respond) Absolutely a sports metaphor. Guys who like guys should use them a lot more, maybe we could dispel a few stereotypes!Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-14767026670772873962009-01-18T14:20:00.000-08:002009-01-18T14:20:00.000-08:00I agree with BigRedHammer, you just need to give h...I agree with BigRedHammer, you just need to give her some time to digest this. Mothers blame themselves for everything, even if they shouldn't. Just be patient and I am sure this will enhance your relationship with her, rather than destroy it.Lori Andersonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05724085855926611670noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-47465287300627231252009-01-18T11:47:00.000-08:002009-01-18T11:47:00.000-08:00Remember, how long did it take for you to realize ...Remember, how long did it take for you to realize that you were gay? And after that, how long did it take to come to terms? And then be happy with being gay?<BR/><BR/>Well, expect a period shorter than that for her to go through the same process, but not much shorter. Just remember this is *very* difficult for her. Don't be judgmental. Just accept every little step forward that she makes. Try to minimize every step backwards. I came out to my mom in November and besides that first talk, we still haven't talked about it other than in passing. It takes time... lots of time.BigRedHammerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525232250776614478noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-54313852586093204152009-01-18T09:09:00.000-08:002009-01-18T09:09:00.000-08:00Hey Ezra. This note from your mom actually sounds...Hey Ezra. This note from your mom actually sounds pretty benign to me. Maybe I just don't know her too well, but I'd take it at face value unless you know from experience that you shouldn't do that. I agree with Scot. Take it easy.Robhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992194211469009236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-62759249470085993752009-01-18T08:01:00.000-08:002009-01-18T08:01:00.000-08:00That is one of the more surprising responses I've ...That is one of the more surprising responses I've read, but, if I were to average them all together, that would not be below average on the scale of good and bad.<BR/><BR/>The negative is that it's brevity seems to hold something negative.<BR/><BR/>But:<BR/><BR/>1. "Love Mom", many won't even get that.<BR/>2. "Sweetheart". She still uses pet names, and I know when I'm being stern with my kids I do not :-).<BR/>3. She asked about your love life and that, in my experience, is a big step. To be taken right off the bat, well, I think that's a good sign.<BR/><BR/>I hope the next letter clears much up and doesn't do any damage to the relationship. Time, nevertheless, can heal a lot in this realm.Scothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12350801865113852319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-25551288617283940712009-01-18T06:20:00.000-08:002009-01-18T06:20:00.000-08:00Well, I am glad she didn't freak out on you over t...Well, I am glad she didn't freak out on you over the email..although she may be freaking out and just not be telling you. But I hope she decides to allow this to change your relationship for the better. Congratulations on completing one of the hardest coming out's of your life!Grant Hawshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11285466218376293776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-50541511354195713092009-01-18T00:20:00.000-08:002009-01-18T00:20:00.000-08:00Really a Sports metaphor on a gay blog?All joking ...Really a Sports metaphor on a gay blog?<BR/><BR/>All joking aside, this is a giant leap you have taken. You should be proud. being true to one's self is not easy, and you did it! I hope this brings you and your mum closer.Ausmohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806587281832427910noreply@blogger.com