tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post6959075108294894814..comments2023-09-11T05:27:27.319-07:00Comments on NoHo Moho: The Depths Of ConfusionEzrahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18249055675517672157noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-31951826249963003152009-01-17T07:45:00.000-08:002009-01-17T07:45:00.000-08:00What BigRed Hammer Said!I hope you figure it out s...What BigRed Hammer Said!<BR/><BR/>I hope you figure it out soon, I'm sure you will. <BR/><BR/>Close your eyes, think about that person you want to spend your life with. their hair, eye's nose, lips, body. does it show a gender or still just features? I do think sex is only a part of the love you seek. <BR/><BR/>Good luck friend.Ausmohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02806587281832427910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2890637673678810716.post-59165316583704493962009-01-16T11:11:00.000-08:002009-01-16T11:11:00.000-08:00I will agree with you on one point: you seem conf...I will agree with you on one point: you seem confused.<BR/><BR/>But I'm going to add my perspective on your confusion. First of all, being gay doesn't mean you desire cock. I as well am not turned on by seeing that part of male anatomy. It's nice that they have one, but I don't desire to do anything with it. It's the rest of the man that turns me on. <BR/><BR/>On the other side of the coin, have you ever viewed male-female porn? Would you be turned on by lesbian porn? Have you fantasized about women? If the answer is often, then you might be bi. If the answer is once, twice, or I can count it on one hand... then you're probably gay.<BR/><BR/>When I first remember being aroused by men and fantasizing about them, I wasn't thinking about sex, not anal, not oral, nothing. I just imagined myself holding the man, touching him and snuggling. Eventually the idea of kissing a guy really turned me on. Those things still work for me. But my tastes have expanded too.<BR/><BR/>I think perhaps you are viewing bisexuality as some kind of compromise. That you could be partially gay, but still live a straight life and be happy. I'll tell you, that's only sometimes true. Many bisexual people report that they are sexually attracted to both genders and need sex with both genders to feel fulfilled. So where does that leave a moral person who doesn't sleep around? Sexually unfulfilled because if he's married to a woman he can never have sex with a man and vice versa. Having sex with a woman does not fulfill their desire to have sex with a man. I don't envy those people.<BR/><BR/>I think what you need is a group of normal, moral, gay friends. You need a chance to see that a "gay lifestyle" can also mean monogamy, zero alcohol and drugs, clean fun and happiness. The Church has those things, but it does *not* have a monopoly on them.<BR/><BR/>Give yourself time. It is much more important to have good friends who support you then it is to have sex or even a boyfriend. And having those friends can lead to the second and third thing.BigRedHammerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09525232250776614478noreply@blogger.com